Some things in life are better when you do them over and over, like seeing your friends or getting a manicure. But what about your sexcapades? Not one of them, for sure. Even the hottest spark in the bedroom needs to try new sex positions every so often to keep things interesting.
A licensed sex therapist in Los Angeles named Vanessa Marin says, “When you bring something new and different into the bedroom, you set yourself up for a more exciting experience and a bigger finish.” In short, your brain wants to try new things, and especially for women, your brain has a lot to do with how excited and happy you feel.
Trying out different “moves” can also help your relationship in great ways. Shawntres Parks, a licensed marriage and family therapist in San Diego, says that the lack of new things to do in the bedroom is a big problem for intimacy. Exploring each other emotionally between the sheets encourages partners to take risks and grow as a couple. The new sex positions will make people more open to each other in and out of the bedroom. And in the end, your relationship will have more trust because of it.
In some situations, you might even have to switch places. “If you think ‘ouch’ when someone offers you sex, you might want to try other positions that are more comfortable for people with different abilities, as well as those who have chronic pain or pain from penetration,” says Parks. But just because you’ve found a position that doesn’t hurt doesn’t mean it’s your only choice. Even though it’s easy to become a creature of habit once you’ve found that go-to, comfortable, climax-every-time position, Parks urges you to keep changing things up. There are SO many options out there, some of which you couldn’t even dream up.
Going it alone? You can also mix it yourself. No matter how hard they try, it’s unlikely that someone can make you happy better than you can. Spend some time finding out what makes you happy without feeling like you have to make someone else happy. When you play by yourself, you can take a lot of different roles. If you want to include someone else, you’ll know exactly what you want them to do and be able to tell them right away.
But where do I start? How about one of these 49 positions that will make you want to p*ss yourself?
1. 69
How to do it: Have your partner lie down on their back. Then climb on top so that your back is to their upper body. You’ll look like the number 69 this way, right? Your partner’s mouth should be in line with your genitalia, and yours should be in line with theirs. You could also try putting it side by side.
Why: This position is one of the best for getting and giving pleasure at the same time.
Make it hotter: Sure, the mouth-to-genitals action is the main draw, but don’t be afraid to get your hands dirty, too. You might even want to bring a sex toy if it’s hard for you to focus while your partner is making love to you and you need something to do for a while.
2. Corkscrew
How to do it: Rest on your hip and forearm near the edge of a bed or bench and press your thighs together. Your partner stands and straddles you from behind, either entering or grinding.
Why: Keeping your legs together in this sex position makes it easier to keep a tight grip on your partner as they thrust.
Make it hotter: To make it hotter, don’t let your partner do all the work; instead, slightly thrust your hips to the beat.
3. Face-Off
How to do it: Your partner sits on a chair or the edge of the bed, and you sit on their lap, facing them.
Why: In this sex position, you control the angle and depth of the entry and thrust. Being seated gives you more support, which makes it great for long sex sessions.
Make it hotter: Let your fingers (and hands) tell you how hot it is. Once you’re seated, you can put your hands anywhere on your body or your partner’s to make things more interesting.
4. Doggy Style
How to do it: Get on all fours and have your partner kneel behind you with their upper body straight up or slightly draped over you (ya know, like a humping dog).
Why: This position makes it easier to go deep and stimulate the G-spot.
Make it hotter: Use one hand to stimulate your clitoris, or ask your partner to do it for you. Donna Oriowo, PhD, is a licensed sex therapist and the owner and lead therapist at AnnodRight. She says, “Temperature play can happen here, too!” “Grab an ice cube and run it slowly down your partner’s spine.”
5. Pretzel Dip
How to do it: Lie on your right side while your partner kneels on your right leg and curls your left leg around their left side.
Why: This position gives you the deeper penetration of the doggy style while still letting you make eye contact. Or, if you don’t like to be penetrated, your partner can easily grind against you to get your clit.
Make it hotter: Oriowo says to make it hotter by adding nipple clamps or giving your partner an ice cube to use on your nipples.
6. Flatiron
How to do it: Lie on your back with your legs straight and your hips just a little bit raised.
Why: Because of how tight this position is, your partner’s penis or strap-on will look even bigger.
Make it hotter: To make it hotter, Oriowo says, “This is a great time to nibble or bite on your partner’s shoulders and the back of their neck to add more sensations.”
7. G-Whiz
How to do it: Lie back and put each of your legs on the shoulder of your partner.
Why: When you raise your legs, the vagina gets smaller and helps you hit your G-spot.
Make it hotter: Ask your partner to start rocking you side to side or up and down to make it hotter. That should make the penis or strap-on touch your G-spot directly.
8. Cowgirl’s Helper
How to do it: You kneel on top of your partner and push off their chest while sliding up and down their thighs. This is similar to the popular Cowgirl sex position. But your partner helps by taking some of your weight and grabbing your hips or thighs as they rise to meet each thrust.
Why: Because this sex position is easier on your legs and makes it easier to climax. Also, if you’re with a guy, female-dominant sex positions delay his climax, so everyone wins.
Make it hotter: Alternate between shallow and deep thrusts to make it hotter. This will stimulate different parts of the vagina.
9. Wheelbarrow
How to do it: Get on your hands and feet and have them pick you up by your pelvis. Then put your thighs around their waist.
Why: This male-dominated sex position is a great way to work out your arms, and it also lets you go deeper.
Make it hotter: Rest your arms by sitting on a table or the side of the bed.
10. Leap Frog
How to do it: This is a doggy style position that has been changed. Get on your hands and knees, and then rest your head and arms on the bed while keeping your hips up.
Why: This sex position makes penetration deeper and lets you rest your head on a pillow.
Make it hotter: Use your hands to stimulate your clitoris and turn up the heat.
11. Magic Mountain
How to do it: Your partner sits with their legs bent and leans back on their hands and forearms. You do the same thing, and then you slowly move toward them until you touch.
Why: Because when you look at each other, you’ll both feel really close. You can get more excited by rubbing your clitoris on their pelvis.
Make it hotter: Slide ice cubes down their chest and let the cold water gather at the base of their pelvis. This will make it hotter.
12. Cowgirl
How to do it: Kneel on top and slide up and down your partner’s thighs while pushing off their chest. By leaning back and putting your weight on their thighs, you can take some of the weight off of their pelvis.
Why: If you’re in charge in this sex position, their climax will come later and yours will be stronger.
Make it hotter: Oriowo says, “Bring your chests closer together, or lean in, to change the depth and pressure.” “Take the time to add some nipple play and neck kisses while you’re leaning forward,” she says. Alternatively, she suggests grinding in a slightly different direction than you usually do. go back and forth a lot? Put on your best Ariana Grande impression and rock from side to side.
13. Reverse Cowgirl
How to do it: Your partner lies on their back, and you stand on their feet, straddling them.
Why: The great thing about reverse cowgirl is that you can take charge and show your partner how fast or slow you want to go.
Make it hotter: To make it hotter, put your knees and shins inside their legs and under their thighs to get more leverage.
14. Cowboy
How to do it: Lie on your back while your partner gets in between your legs. Then, they put their penis, strap-on, or finger gently through the tight opening made by your legs that are only half closed.
Why: Because tightness makes the penetration stronger.
Make it hotter: By having them touch your breasts or hold your wrists down gently. This is called bondage. Oriowo says that if you like BDSM, this is a great chance to do some light choking. If you don’t, your partner can grab a toy and use it on you.
15. Ballet Dancer
How to do it: Stand on one foot, face your partner, and wrap your other leg around their waist while they help you.
Why: This sex position lets you connect and spend time looking at each other.
Make it hotter: If you’re very flexible, try putting the raised leg on their shoulder during outercourse to make it deeper or to stimulate their clitoral area.
16. Missionary
How to do it: Do I really need to explain how to do this? Okay. Lay on your back while they lay on top of you with their faces down.
Why: The missionary sex position is simple, beautiful, effective, and surprising in how many ways it can be used. Vanilla, sure, but delicious.
Make it hotter: Changing the angle of your legs can make a big difference in how it feels for both of you.
17. Cross-Booty
How to do it: Your partner gets into the missionary position and slides their chest and legs off your body so that their pelvis is in the same place but their limbs form a “X” with yours.
Why: This sex position lets you feel more of your partner’s body moving.
Make it hotter: Use this unique angle to massage their back, buttocks, or legs as they thrust. They’ll lose it (as will you, watching them).
18. The Caboose
How to do it: While they are sitting on the bed or in a chair, put your back into their lap and spoon them while they are sitting.
Why: Because you can’t see your partner when you’re in this sex position. This makes it easier to dream and can make things more exciting.
Make it hotter: Tighten the muscles in your pelvic floor so you can grip them and keep them hard AF or stimulate their clitoris.
19. Scoop Me Up
How to do it: Lie down on your sides and face the same way. You slightly lift your knees while your partner slides up behind your pelvis and comes in from the back. (This may also be called spooning.)
Why: This sex position lets you touch each other more, which makes you feel more stimulated.
Make it hotter: By having your partner put his or her hands on your shoulders. This will make the thrust stronger and deeper.
20. Reverse Scoop
How to do it: From the missionary position, turn together onto your sides without letting go of each other. Support your upper bodies with your arms.
Why: Because you both get a full-body press and can look each other in the eyes.
Make it hotter: Try intertwining your legs with his or fondling them down below to make it hotter.
21. Golden Arch
How to do it: Your partner sits with their legs straight and you sit on top of them with your knees bent on their thighs. You both lean back.
Why: Because this position lets you see each other’s whole bodies. You will also be able to change the thrusts’ depth, speed, and angle.
Make it hotter: By rubbing your clitoris with their hand or your own. Lean back further to stimulate the G-spot more.
22. The Seashell
How to do it: Lie back with your legs all the way up and your ankles crossed behind your head. They come at you as if they are on a mission.
Why: You can move your clitoris without using your hands. As you ought to.
Make it hotter: By having them “ride high,” rubbing their pubic bone against your clitoris, or “ride low,” directly stimulating your G-spot with the head of the penis, the strap-on, a dildo, or a finger.
23. Butter Churner
How to do it: Lie on your back with your legs up and folded over so that your ankles are on either side of your head. Have them squat down and dip their penis, strap-on, dildo, or finger in and out of your vagina.
Why: Besides making eye contact, the extra blood flow to your head will make you feel even better.
Make it hotter: Have them drip chocolate syrup or something sweet into your mouth (yes, really). It makes you use more of your senses, which makes the whole experience better.
24. The Chairman
How to do it: Your partner sits on the edge of the bed, and you sit on them while leaning back on them.
Why: This sexual position will hit the spot, as in your G-spot. In the meantime, you can use your hands to stimulate their scrotum, perineum, or clitoris.
Make it hotter: Bring your knees closer to your chest and rest your feet on the bed. This will make it warmer.
25. The Pinball Wizard
How to do it: Get into a bridge-like position with your weight on your shoulders, like a pinball machine. Your partner comes up to you while kneeling.
Why: Because it makes it easy for your partner to reach your clitoris and massage your mons pubis.
Make it hotter: Throw one leg up against their shoulder to make it hotter and deeper.
26. Valedictorian
How to do it: From the missionary position, lift your legs straight up and out to make a “V.”
Why: Because this lets the body make good contact with the vulva.
Make it hotter: Grab your ankles to make it hotter. It can help you stay in place and give you an extra stretch to make the feeling stronger.
27. Spork
How to do it: Lie on your back and lift your right leg so that your partner can put their body at a 90-degree angle between your legs and enter you. You can control the depth of penetration by bending or straightening your left leg on the bed. For a back entry, lie on your stomach, bend one leg, and have your partner get in between your legs. Options!
Why: When you’re in the spork position, you can lift your top leg and rest it on your partner’s shoulder for support. From here, it’s easy to use your fingers to stimulate your clitoris while they’re still inside you.
Make it hotter: By breathing at the same time. One of you goes first, and the other one follows, so that you both breathe in and out at the same time. The rhythms work together to create a feeling of closeness without words.
28. Seated Wheelbarrow
How to do it: Have your partner sit on the edge of a bed or chair, put your butt in their lap, and put your hands firmly on the floor. Stretch your legs out behind their waist (it will probably work better if they support your thighs) and start pumping.
Why: This position lets you go deep, and it also works your arms at the same time.
Make it hotter: squeeze your pelvic muscles in a rhythmic way to help you both reach a strong peak.
29. Table Top
How to do it: You don’t have to do this on a table; any surface that hits your partner at crotch height will do. Have them come in while you’re sitting or lying on the edge of a table, counter, or maybe even your bed.
Why: This is a great spot for direct action. Also, if your heights are very different, this is a great option because it makes you both the same height.
Make it hotter: Bring your legs down and put your feet on their chest, in front of their shoulders. This will make it hotter. You can control the speed and depth of thrusts this way.
30. Champagne Room
How to do it: Your partner sits down, and you sit on top of them, facing away.
Why: Because it lets you control how fast and hard you thrust.
Make it hotter: Do it on the stairs or the edge of the tub to make it hotter. It helps to have some skill, but practice makes perfect, right?
31. The Om
How to do it: Your partner sits cross-legged (yoga/pretzel style), and you sit in their lap facing them. Hug each other for support and wrap your legs around theirs.
Why: Because it’s best for tantric sex. The key to this very intimate position is to rock instead of thrust.
Make it hotter: By looking deeply into each other’s eyes. This will add an extra “oh” to the big O.
32. Upstanding Citizen
How to do it: You put your legs around their body and straddle them (they keep their knees unlocked and thighs spread slightly). They stand and put their arms around you. You can start on the bed and be picked up without breaking the connection. (Or, if you’re really brave, you can get on while standing up!)
Why: This is how every steamy romance movie ends, so you should try it.
Make it hotter: Make it hotter by having them carefully push you up against a wall.
33. The Spider
How to do it: Sit on the bed with your legs close together and your arms behind you for support. Move on to their penis or strap-on and move together. Your hips will be between their legs, with your knees bent and your feet flat on the bed outside of their hips. Move back and forth now.
Why: You can still make eye contact while watching what’s going on in the middle of the stage.
Make it hotter: Grab your partner’s hands and pull yourself up into a squat while they lie back. This will make it hotter. Or, they can stay seated and pull you into the “Lazy Man” position by pulling you up against their chest.
34. The Good Ex
How to do it: Sit on the bed with your legs out in front of you, facing each other. Lift your partner’s right leg over your left, and then lift your right leg over their left. Get close so they can get in. Now, you both lay back with your legs in an X shape. Instead of thrusting, there are slow, leisurely gyrations.
Why: Long, slow sex that makes you feel more excited. If they have a penis, shallow thrusts stimulate the nerve endings in the head of their penis.
To make it hotter: Reach out and grab hands to pull together and thrust your pelvis. Also, take turns sitting up and lying down, but don’t break the rhythm.
35. The Lazy Man
How to do it: Put pillows behind your partner’s back and have them sit on the bed with their legs spread out. (If you have a sex pillow, pull it out!) Now sit on their waist with your feet on the bed. To get on them, bend your knees and use one hand to guide the penis or strap-on in. You can move up and down the shaft as quickly or slowly as you want by pressing down on the balls of your feet and letting go.
Why: Because this position puts you in charge and keeps a lot of closeness. Think of their penis or strap-on as a tool for masturbation, something you can use to rub and stimulate your clitoris.
Make it hotter: From this position, you and your partner can lie back into the Spider position or the more difficult Good Ex position.
36. Snow Angel
How to do it: Lie on your back and have your partner sit on you with their backs turned away from you. Lift your legs and wrap them around their backs to raise your pelvis so they can get in. Help them slide up and back by grabbing their butt. Give your grip a little bit of a massage.
Why: Because you get a great look at their cute behind. Plus, you can easily touch their testicles or clitoris when you’re in this position. Not only that, but their pelvis is in the perfect place to grind on your clit.
Make it hotter: By having them spin around like missionaries to face you while trying to stay inserted. Then switch places so you are on top and facing away.
37. Wrapped Lotus
How to do it: Have your partner sit with their legs crossed and climb into their lap so your legs are wrapped around their back. Have your partner come in and grind their pelvis against yours.
Why: Because this position gives you a lot of face-to-face time. Also, there is a lot of room for creativity in this position. For example, you can stimulate different parts of each other’s upper bodies, like the head, neck, and face.
Make it hotter: By asking them to lick your nipples and giving them free reign with their hands. And wander…and wander. (You know what I mean.)
38. The Snake
How to do it: Lie on your stomach and have your partner lie down on top of you and slide in from behind.
Why: This position lets you and your partner get really deep and close, which can feel great for both of you.
Make it hotter: You can control how deep they go by reaching back and wrapping your hand around the shaft, or you can change the angle of your butt to get the same effect.
39. Woman Astride
How to do it: This position is the same as the cowgirl position, but with a twist. Climb up to the top and have your partner come in. Then, lean back and put your hands on the bed for support. Your partner’s legs should be at a 45-degree angle to yours.
Why: Changing the angle makes it easier to hit your G-spot and gives you more control over the speed and depth of thrusts. Plus, your partner can get to your clitoris with ease.
Make it hotter: By giving yourself a hand with the “V stroke.” Make a V with the index and ring fingers of one hand and place them on either side of your clitoris with their penis in the middle. Rock your fingers down as you push them down.
40. Stand and Deliver
How to do it: Stand back-to-back and bend over at the waist. They will come up behind you and join you.
Why: When in this sex position, bending over helps make the vaginal walls tighter and the friction stronger.
Make it hotter: By having your partner tickle your clitoris with their free hand or loosely tie your hands together with a silky scarf.
41. Coital Alignment Technique
How to do it: Lay on your back and wrap your ankles around your partner’s calves. Then, bend them to bring your partner closer.
Why: This position is meant to bring your partner’s penis or dildo closer to your clitoris for more pleasure.
Make it hotter: Going slow will give you and your partner a chance to talk dirty, look into each other’s eyes, and all that good stuff.
42. Mutual Masturbation
How to do it: You and your partner can find a comfortable spot across from or next to each other and take turns masturbating while the other watches or masturbating together.
Why: Even though it’s not technically a position, mutual masturbation is one of the most intimate things you can do with someone because you’re showing them how you feel when you’re alone.
Make it hotter: If you want to give your partner control, try asking them to tell you how to touch or edge yourself.
For your own happiness…
43. Belly Down
How to do it: Put your hands between your legs and lie on your stomach. Move your hips up and down and squeeze your legs together so that your clitoris and pubic mound rub against your fingers.
Why: Simple and great happiness.
Make it hotter: Most back-entry positions, like the Flatiron or the Leapfrog, are easy to add to.
44. Bubble the Fun
How to do it: Start by rubbing yourself down on top with your body in the water and your legs hanging out of the tub. Then move down into the water and look around.
Why: Taking a warm, sweet-smelling bath is a great way to relax, ease stress, and get in a good mood.
Make it hotter: Add a waterproof vibrator to make waves or use your detachable shower head (the “pulse” setting is great) to make the water hotter. Water that flows steadily on the clitoris can be very relaxing.
45. Look and Learn
How to do it: Sit in a comfortable chair with one leg propped up on the bed or couch. Hold a hand mirror in your hand. Now that you know what you want, move away from your sensitive clitoris to find new erogenous areas. Explore the opening, inside, and back wall of your vagina with your fingers, pressing and changing the pressure until you find something that feels right.
Why: It may seem simple, but it gives you a different view. You might learn a new way to “ring your bell,” which can help women who can only come in one position feel less frustrated.
Make it hotter: Try it with your favorite sex toy or have your partner slide in from the Seashell or Butter Churner position to make it even sexier.
46. Circle Perk
How to do it: Sit down and “draw” a circle around your clitoris with your finger. Start slowly and then speed up and apply more pressure based on how you react.
Why: This masturbation move is great for women who find direct clitoral pressure too intense for long-lasting stimulation.
Make it hotter: Are you bored with the “O” shape? You can change how it feels by tracing the letters of the alphabet on your clit.
47. Couch Grind
How to do it: Ride the arm of a stuffed chair or couch or the folded towel or blanket on the edge of a table or desk. Start with a small hip movement and build up speed slowly.
Why: It’s great if you like steady pressure on your clitoris.
Make it hotter: Feeling a little too much like American Pie? Grab the arm with your thighs and let your partner come up behind you. Just be careful not to break anything.
48. Get to the G-Spot
How to do it: Lie on your back and pull your knees in toward your chest. Put one or two fingers into your vagina in a deep way. As you pull your finger back, press against the front of your vagina and urethra and curl your finger in a beckoning way.
Why: When doing this motion, it’s normal to feel like you need to go to the bathroom a little bit at first. With practice and a few sessions, though, you can expect a warm, pleasant experience.
Make it hotter: Try it with one leg bent to your chest and the other leg straight. This will give you a different feeling.
49. Tap Dance
How to do it: Lie on your side with one leg straight and the other bent. With one hand, gently pull your labia apart and hold them to the sides. Use the other hand to put a tiny drop of lube on your clitoris. Then, start gently tapping on it with your other hand.
Why: Tapping instead of rubbing can cause quick and intense feelings in people who find direct stimulation too intense.
Make it hotter: If you tap harder or faster, you’ll feel different things. See how long you can last, or ask your partner to join in the fun.